‘According to Bruce Tift, ”Sanity is a counter-instinctual process.” And at first, it certainly feels counter-instinctual to turn towards what is painful and terrifying. Shouldn’t I be running in the opposite direction? But the counter-instinctual move turns out to be tremendously empowering. If we can face our worst fears, then maybe they won’t continue to secretly run our life. And where does real confidence come from if not from knowing that we can handle whatever experience comes our way?’ Tami Simon